It’s not always easy being a parent, but there are some things you can do and remind yourself of that will help you get through those toddler tantrums, middle schooler moods, and teenage terrors. Read on to find out what they are.
Parenting is an important job
Whether you are a full-time parent or a working parent, sometimes it really helps to remember that parenting is one of the most important jobs in the world. After all, you are responsible for raising the next generation of people on this planet, and if that is not a meaningful activity, I don’t know what is!
Parents are humans too
Having said that, it’s also important not to get crushed by the responsibility of parenthood. Remember, parents are people too, and that means they are going to make mistakes and get things wrong. Of course, that is OK as long as they can own up to and apologise for their mistakes just as they would expect their children to. Teaching that being human comes with making mistakes is a very good lesson for both parent and child.
Communicate effectivity
Making sure that you communicate effectively with your kids is one of the most important ways to be a successful parent, even when times are tough. However, communication does not mean only being clear when they are doing something wrong. It also means being clear when they are doing something right and giving them praise, as well as communicating verbally and by actions that you love them unconditionally, just because they are your child.
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Coparenting doesn’t have to be horrible
Not all parents live together in the same home or are in a romantic relationship with each other. But that doesn’t mean that their experience of parenthood is any less important. Unfortunately, many people assume that coparenting has to be hard and that it’s only natural that it’s a negative experience. The good news is that this truly does not have to be the case.
Indeed, if you use tactics like having clear expectations, good communication and a regular schedule, you can make coparenting into a successful and pleasant experience. You can even work with family solicitors for family mediation and your divorce settlement. Something that means you can leave the hard stuff to your legal team, and preserve the goodwill between you and your ex much more easily.
It’s OK to say No
Yes, I know there is a lot in the media and online about positive parenting. But I’m here to remind you that it’s totally OK and often very necessary for you to say no to your kids. Does that mean they will like it, and not react – well, no, it doesn’t. But by being consistent when you say no and meaning it, your kids will learn valuable lessons about regulating their emotions and behaviours. Of course, it’s always important that nos are just as kind as yesses, but don’t forget that you don’t have to give in to every demand your child has. You are the parent, and they are relying on you to set boundaries for them.