The other day I was looking through my blog archives and came across my very first post. It was the day after the scan, which revealed we were expecting twins. I think in terms of key lifetime moments, that one is definitely is top of the list.
I’m not going to lie, my initial reaction was not particularly positive. I burst into tears and thought my life was over. There were a million thoughts buzzing round my head: “how can we afford three children?”; “we can’t fit everyone in the car”; “we haven’t got enough rooms in our house”; “will I be able to go back to work?”; “will we ever be able to go on holiday again?”; “will I have to have a c-section?”; “is my pregnancy going to be full of complications?” “will I ever get my figure back?”; “will we cope?”!
The senographer took the scan thingy off my stomach to give me time to stop shaking. When she put it back on again, I was amazed by what I was actually seeing, and I forgot all practicalities and looked at the two tiny beans floating around. My next question was: “Are they both ok?” and they were. In fact my pregnancy was pretty good and they were evicted at 37 weeks and 5 days.
Throughout my pregnancy I spent so much time worrying about what life with twins would be like. Oscar was 2 at the time, so I knew what dealing with a baby would be like, but two seemed almost impossible.
So, looking at my first post, I decided to put a list together of all the things I wished someone had said to me when I was pregnant and fretting about what lay ahead:
• You will be fine and you will cope.
• It gets easier – I found the first few months tough but I think that was more due to lack of sleep.
• They will sleep through the night at some point – mine were 4 months old.
• You’ll find away to carry them both down the stairs (I used to worry about random things like this A LOT!)
• However you choose to feed them you’ll manage to find a way to feed them both at the same time.
• When you’re able to, exercise – it will make you feel happier and you’ll be able to keep up with the twins, plus it will help shift the baby weight. I’ve really got into running, it’s my ‘me time’ and helps me to cope with life!
• The special twin moments melt your heart and make it all worthwhile – it gets me every time they kiss, cuddle or hold hands!
• People will think you’re superwoman – some days you really are, be proud of yourself!
• It’s all about being organised!
• You will become an expert at multi-tasking!
• Even after they’ve been here a couple of years, you’ll still have to pinch yourself – I can’t believe I have twins sometimes.
• You’re special – not everyone gets to have twins!
• Not every twin birth is done by c-section – mine were born the usual way and it was fine.
• You won’t be huge forever – I weigh less then I did before having the twins. My stomach is still a bit wobbly but it’s nowhere near what I thought it would be like
• Don’t stress about having enough bedrooms as they will probably share for a while anyway.
• You will get to go on holiday again (this is where being organised is particularly useful) – our twins aren’t even two yet and we’ve been to Florida, Spain, Portugal and on a cruise.
• If you’re having a tough day try and get out of the house – you’ll feel like you’ve achieved something and having people coo over the twins can’t help but make you smile.
• Finally, enjoy it – they get big so fast, so take lots of pics!
If your pregnant with twins, I hope the above helps a little. Feel free to get in touch – I love chatting about all things twins!
If you’ve got twins yourself, please feel free to share your (positive) words of wisdom!